The domesticated outdoor goddess

Something which I’d not expected of myself: I am more domesticated than I’d expected.

Old railway tracks – makes a good photo opp

Domesticated and empowered

However, if you had a stereotypical image of a submission houseperson in mind, you are mistaken. I feel empowered and strong knowing that I am living a meaningful life and respected for being a woman who puts in effort at work and at home.

I feel happy brainstorming away and planning for the next event at my laptop for work while the tantalizing aroma of freshly cooked rice and good old homely, comforting scent of softener waft through the air to my sensitive nose.

Knowing that my partner will enjoy the homemade meal made with love makes me happy. I have always thought of myself as a career woman and one who is driven. However, since I have given up the rat race to join my first boss in managing something more meaningful has made me change my views and helped me stay true to myself.

Work, must sound like the most tiring word

What have I compromised? I think I have gained more than I’ve compromised. I have gained knowledge and comfort in knowing that we are doing something meaningful in sharing stories of courage from other start-ups, perspectives in branding from a small business point-of-view and not from a large corporation. Not that there is anything wrong with hearing from a large corporation.

We grow a little everyday with that little faith that a framework and ideas from an experienced boutique firm is able to make ripples of positive change in communities.

That is what work is to me: inspiring others, sharing experiences and exchanging ideas. Since we spend almost 80% of our time at work, shouldn’t that be our life’s motto too? Life is work. Make it fun.

Breaking it down but not break down

I am learning to incorporate these changes into my new life and this includes being an all-rounder and being happy.

Call me simple, but shouldn’t life be simple? A person’s intelligence and self-worth does not diminish just because we have shifted an initial focus to something we’ve learnt along the way. On our life’s journey, we have discovered that flowers line our paths and there are things to explore at every turn. While I would have continued without much of a glance, being focused on my goal, I would have missed the sights and experiences. At the end of my journey, I would have gained nothing; having not lived a moment in the present.

The call for peace (yes, idealistic and cliche) starts from every person. The willingness to embrace compassion and step back but the courage to stand firm for what we believe in without harming others are critical traits of being a person. How can we expect peace in the world if it doesn’t start from every individual?



Caution: Winding road ahead

As the new chapter of my life unfolds, I see myself crowding into a smaller corner with the big unknown spaces I’ve not explored or have not Intentionally avoided.

Exhilarating life choices and a leap into the unknown. I’ve never really given ‘leap of faith’ much thought and it has now taken on a life of its own.

My new life includes a new job with broader responsibilities in a different role and a life role which is even more important – being a partner, girlfriend and lover to that special someone. Sharing a life is something I’d never expect to do on a grand scale in such a short amount of time.

Shifting life roles

Consider this: Meeting the person for a first date in early December 2013 and then running head-log into a full blown relationship which involves living together in a new found place, all within the span of 2.5 months. But then again, one may argue that greater things have been achieved in a shorter amount of time.

For two introverts to get together that quickly and to adjust to a 24/7 exposure to each other isn’t an easy feat. We are still knocking out the kinks which might mean a lot more communication. I am sure all those who have been in a serious, live-in relationship would have experienced this and know what I am talking about.

I have discovered things about myself and love in the 2.5 months. How has my world shifted?

Having to consider how one communicates to another in tone and manner has never been something I had such priority on until I embarked on this relationship. Being free spirited in the past and now making decisions as a unit is possibly one of the biggest change in my life.

Having that space to think has evolved into a process whereby communicating one’s thoughts and actions is essential in a two-way communication. Before one disappears into a private space or world, communicating the intention and ensuring the other party doesn’t feel shut out is something which I am getting used to.

I used to take a lot of down time to think and I find that I have been caught up with the action of moving in the fast lane.

Recalibrating: Ali version 2.0

The journey in the past 2.5 months has not been all that smooth but it is the experiences which help us grow stronger and closer as we progress. As long as we continue to communicate and consider the perspectives, there can be progress.

As I stride out on my new journey, I  will continue conversations with myself; reflecting on the journey and new discoveries.